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The art of acceptance


Written by Neha Chandna - Dietician, Nutrition Educator, Exercise Counselor with an M.Sc. in Dietetics and Food Service Management from SVT. She has worked with corporates such as HDFC and Standard Chartered as well as BPOs and MNCs on the Right ways of eating and living!

What makes us human is not the power to think, talk and walk but to feel and express different emotions. Every human being has a different threshold to different situations and reacts in different ways. We all love feeling happy, in love, excited, elated, etc., but life is not a cake walk. The society we live in exposes us to many negative emotions, which are not pleasant and disturb our inner peace. But it all depends on person to person as to how much they allow the negativity to seep into them and eat them up inside.

A negative emotion is something that arises automatically, but when we analyze and reason out the situation, the intensity of it reduces. It's a law of nature that what you dwell upon is what you attract. So people who live in a negative frame of mind and have many negative thoughts generally attract more negative situations and emotions. Chronically, these emotions then lower your confidence, enthusiasm and power to think, which can affect your original personality.

We can't change the situation or people around us, but we can definitely change the way we react to them. There are a lot of ways in which you can avoid the negativity from dampening your spirit:

  • Let go: When an unwanted situation or conversation takes place, try not to brood over it as it can take away the present moment from you.

  • Know your limits: Do not blow things out of proportion and keep your calm to you analyze better.

  • Accept: The best way to feel better is to accept that such things happen with everyone and are unavoidable; what is possible is to make yourself feel better.

  • Learn: Try to learn which feeling (anger, fear, stress etc) arises in what situation and control your reactions in those situations.

  • Relax: Use techniques like reading, singing, listening to music, walking, etc. to feel better.

  • Talk to a friend: Talking to a loved one who understands you can instantly make you feel good.

  • Vent it out: Write your feelings on a piece of paper and burn it. It's the best way to let it go.

  • Exercise: Go for a run/jog/dance; it can help you reduce stress levels and feel better.

  • Look in the mirror: See a person who is strong, happy and in control of the situation in the mirror. Tell yourself 'I love you and I know you can do it'.

  • Remember happy moments: Go back to your happy moments, think of them, feel them, sink into them; it'll help you cherish life and get back to stride.

  • Think positive: Turn the negative thoughts into positive ones and see how things change for the better. Say affirmations that help you gain back your self confidence.

  • You can also change negative emotions for the better as they give you a chance to cultivate mindfulness:

  • Anger: Can be used to fuel your creativity.

  • Embarrassment: Laughing at yourself can help you feel bolder.

  • Sadness: Helps you value emotions and people around you.

  • Envy: Instead of feeling inferior, let it motivate you to be better.

  • Fear: Can make you humble and help you value important things.

  • Shame: Allows you to overcome your pride and be compassionate towards yourself and others.

  • Guilt: Improves your conscience and brings you on the right path.

  • Hatred: Can help you to realize that love is more powerful.

  • Loss: Helps you value close ones even more.

  • Depression: Can be the biggest driving force to take charge of your life and feelings.

  • Negative emotions are only negative if you let yourself feel that for too long. Let it go like sand in your hand and you would be left with none of those emotions.